Saturday, October 10, 2009

Hopeless Romantic Diva and married men

First and foremost, I do not date married men. Not only because by doing so I'd break one of the 10 commandments, but also because it is illegal AND it destroys peoples lives. I have friends who have and who are dating married me. Their choice. Not mine.

As an over-thirty something, when I am out with friend I am regularly approached by married men who want to buy me a drink, engage in conversation. If I do let them buy me a drink, I ask them to tell me how they met their wives, how many children they have...the whole conversation is going to center on his relationship with his wife whom I think that he should be spending his time and money on.

Last night I was out with some very young friends (men and women who are in their early 20s....long story...that's another story). A group of about six married men huddled near us and when given the opportunity asked our male host about me. He said: "What's her story?" I wanted to say: "Who cares what my story is. You are not going to be a chapter or even an entry"

While it's flattering to be paid attention to, spending any time with married men (other than my sisters' or friends' husbands) is not what I want. I have enough friends, I don't need to meet married men who want to be my friend.

Have you ever been approached by married men/women? If so, how do you respond? What do you think about dating a married man/woman? What do you think about any of your friends dating married people?

1 comment:

  1. Because authoritative research helps to make sense of our world, and make better informed choices so that we can lead happier and more fufilling lives, I want to share some good resources that discuss the unhealthy side effects of getting involved with an already married person (note: not judging, just offering an objective third party perspective):

    Dating Married People: Affairs As A Dangerous Game at this website:

    I'll post some citations from referred journals too. If you don't have a library card yet, get one today so that you'll be able to access the journal articles.

    Thanks for joining me on this dating adventure